Corona fright and life at the time of the closure
It has been more than a week since the lockdown began and families are trying to cope with 24 * 7 confinement within homes. I work from home, lack of easy access to groceries and vegetables, handling children, adolescents and the elderly, lack of time for me: people are trying to adapt to the new normal. While some are testing trial-and-error methods to facilitate navigation, others find it difficult to handle the situation.
In a conversation with us, families and singles open up to the challenges of always being together under one roof in the closing period.
Nikitha, a working woman and mother of two children, from Virugambakkam, says the first two days of confinement were chaotic. “I am a software developer, and without help and children staying indoors, the first two days were the most difficult to manage. But now, I have established a routine. This is helping me greatly.
Nikitha is involving her husband and children in housework. “My husband offered to clean and clean the house. While I take care of the kitchen and the containers, the children are asked to sort the clothes and put them to wash. They also help fold and store them in their respective cabinets, she says. Dr. C Rajasekaran, a consulting psychiatrist, says that having a changing routine helps. People are in a panic. The best way to avoid monotony and reduce anxiety is to stay engaged. Having a new routine every day, that helps. One day, if you are cleaning the shelves, the next day you may experience some new recipes. Also, consider this as a time to fulfill some of your long-overdue wishes: reading a particular book or watching a movie.
Addison Prabhu of Iyyappanthangal, who is the manager of an IT company, says working from home is not easy as all of his team members work from remote parts of the country. “I ended up spending more time than I normally spend at work these days. In addition to network connectivity, lack of personal supervision is a concern for project completion, he says. According to him is Sneha Kumar from Mumbai. “This work from home seems like an endless process. I work more hours than usual and I am exhausted when I finish the job. ”
Dr. Sangeetha Makesh, a psychologist and relationship consultant, says this is an unprecedented situation and, in these times of crisis, companies must realize that they cannot expect the highest level of professionalism, but instead focus on doing the work.
Subhashini S from Mandaveli is a housewife and is used to spending time at home. But she says this closing period is very difficult. Children are frustrated that they cannot go out to play or attend classes. Since my husband is at home, he expects me to serve him dishes from time to time. I'm so tired; I spend most of the day in the kitchen.
It's a kind of pressure cooker situation at home, Sowmya laments, staying in a two-bed apartment, along with her in-laws and children. “Life used to be quiet while I was going to the office. Now, it is quite difficult for me to manage the elderly and the children, both are equally demanding. ” She says this has started to tense her, otherwise the happy relationship with her husband too.
Dr. Sangeetha says that in the period of confinement the elderly face the reverse of the problems that others are going through. “Family elders, where husband and wife work, used to have a routine. Once people go to the office and children to schools, they have their time to participate in their activities. But with everyone around them, they feel irritated and those outbreaks are common.
Dr. Rajasekaran says: One way to deal with this situation is to communicate to the elderly that it is not often that people have time to spend time together as a family. Try to create a better bond for children with them: grandparents can tell stories, riddles and even ask them to solve simple math. If not, they can narrate their childhood experiences, so that children understand that life is not a bed of roses.
A medical couple, who does not want to be identified, says they are going through one of the most difficult times. “Since we both work in hospitals, we have sent our children to my sister's house. Previously, our neighbors were very warm and respectful to us, but now they look at us skeptically, as they believe that we could become carriers of the deadly virus, says the doctor.
Although a doctor, Chandra * (name changed upon request), decided to stay home, even though her husband, who is a doctor, goes to the hospital. I stay home since the caregiver cannot come. I take this time to teach our children, ages 7 and 11, to become familiar with the lessons for the upcoming academic year. ”
Meanwhile, Addison and his wife have found a way to bond with their young daughter. “Once he gets bored of drawing and painting, we sit together and play. This family time has become something to look forward to every day, Addison says.
Nimmi and Deepak, who were married three years ago, say they see this time as an opportunity to get closer and improve intimacy. “Due to busy schedules, our sex life had become a routine matter. We are now trying to regain the spark in our sex lives. We want to be able to appreciate the intimacy we share now, for years together, says Nimmi.
Lalitha Sai, a 54-year-old independent media professional, sees this period of confinement as a blessing in disguise. She says: “After working for over 25 years in a time-based industry, I am enjoying this period. I can do whatever I want in the past two decades, from bidding to learning new slokas and meditation, I have the opportunity to explore the spiritual side of life.
Ajay P, a technician was unable to go to Chennai from Bangalore before the curfew began. I stay in a bachelor house; it's frustrating. In addition to lack of access to good food, I feel isolated. Spending 24 hours looking at the ceiling is driving me crazy. To pass the time, I talk to my friends, family and chat with some, and play games online. I want the government to lift the shutdown as soon as possible.
Sangeetha says that how people perceive this period of blocking depends on personality types. While an introvert may not feel bad about staying inside, extroverts and people who thrive on socialization are badly beaten, he says, adding: Those who feel depressed or isolated should speak to people who can reassure them that things will become normal. , soon.
For those couples who have already been through a strained relationship, she has a word. “One reason for a relationship to turn sour is because of the parties' fault finding. However, they will all have good quality in them. Try to discover the good in the couple, no matter how tiny it is, use this closing period to appreciate it and there is a good chance that they will not go to Splitsville but rather reconcile. ”
Dr. Rajasekaran summarizes: Don't be scared reading all the chat messages and watching the television news for hours together. Review your chat groups only once in 3-4 hours. Restrict your new images on TV for 2-3 newsletters. Social distancing can only save the situation, now. So instead of thinking 21 days as a long time, think it's only 21 days; This too shall pass . Problems of residents of the gated community
After closing, my community has closed the clubhouse, which has a common play area, gym, and other activity rooms. They have also closed the pool. They have posted a notice saying that these places are closed until further notice. The grocery store downstairs is open. In general, there is awareness among people in the community, no one is wandering around, it's just the kids who go out and play cricket sometimes, the elderly are predominantly inside their homes. People go out for a walk at night and since there is no point of contact, I don't think it's risky.
-Divya R, residentTo be honest, many of us are confused if social estrangement stays within our home or within our community. We have closed all public areas, such as the gym and other hallways, as we are not sure who may have symptoms. We hardly see children outside. I see morning walkers, we also have to walk our dog, that has become difficult, because we do not understand where we should limit this. People are afraid to leave their homes. The level of interaction between families has been reduced. We are trying to limit the display of news so we don't keep hearing about Corona, which is helping. People share jokes, memes to keep the situation light and fun, that's another way to deal with it. Many of us have detained our maids and given them paid vacations. The community has taken measures where no one but the milkman enters the community. If you have ordered something, you must go to the main entrance of the community and pick it up. The community doctors are really supportive, they take care of people who worry about the symptoms. In terms of purchasing supplies, we have a store outside of our community, take orders together and deliver them at home.
-Shrinithi Mahendran, community member
(With inputs from [email protected] )